Oh what a tangled online dating web we weave
Most experts point to several reasons why affairs die, including: * Part of the energy of an affair is the taboo aspect and secrecy that marks most affairs. They survive more on what is gotten from each other than what is invested in the relationship.
* Affair partners often look back on the sacrifices they made to be together and (one or both) realize that what they gave up is much more than what they now share.
Falling in love can be a wild and crazy series of events.
Just like you and your spouse fell in love once before, it is possible that he/she or you might fall in love with someone else at some point in your life.
Seldom do affairs result in marriage between the affair partners. Like the previous question, this can have different answers. Some even become happy and healthy long-term marriages that last a lifetime.
The probability of such a thing happening, however, is actually not very high.
The idea of romantic love as the entire foundation of marriage is what makes this question something to consider.
You must also consider that it is also possible that you and your spouse can fall in love with each other again as events and circumstances change, which living on this planet almost assures will happen.
This question is a close sibling of the previous one, and should be answered when deciding if an affair might be “real love.” Today we have a model for love in popular culture that seems based in magic, fate or kismet.
Once it happens to us, there is nothing we can do about it except submit to the crazy ride that follows.
I’d like you to consider another model for “real love.” In this model, real love is a shared experience and history combined with an agreement to care for each other, and provide for each other’s welfare and happiness.
In all probability, your spouse once fell in love with you as well.